You’re a Big Fat Liar!

Stop Lying to Yourself About Your BusinessLiar liar, pant’s on fire! Yes, I’m talking to you!

You lie every day to yourself, your family, your business partners, even your mom.  It’s time you stop lying, cheating, and stealing from yourself.  You’ll never be successful in your business if you keep it up.

You know deep down in your heart that you do it, but you may not be willing to admit it. Why?  Because it’s easier not to. Because you’re keeping yourself so busy with excuse after excuse so you don’t have to face the facts.

It’s time you take a look in the mirror, ignore the toothpaste splatters, and get honest with yourself.  (I did and it feels great!)

Enjoy the video, excuse the pj’s please.  This message was too important to waste time getting dressed for. 🙂

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  1. Stumbled across you and this video on Twitter just now, RT’d by one of my followers–awesome message, well said! I am so going to RT this myself and spread your brutally but refreshingly honest encouragement. Have a great (and imperfectly productive) day!

    • Welcome Mary Ann!

      I’m so excited the tweet pulled you in and you stopped by to visit! Wahoo! 🙂

      I did have a great and imperfectly productive day yesterday. How was your day?

      Seeing that it’s almost 6:00 the next morning, and I’ve accomplished my goal, I’m feeling pretty darned on track for an imperfectly productive day again. Anyone hear the old tune, “back in the saddle again” playin’ in their head but me?

      Mary Ann, It’s so truly great to meet you! Hope to see you ’round these parts again!

      Yee Haw!


  2. Hey Heather! Lovely to see you “Jammies” and all.

    I like to myself all the time… it’s called ‘no will power’ (sometimes).

    I also don’t always follow my own advice! Really sucks because I sure can dish it out. Funny thing is those who take it and do as I suggest seem to get further ahead! (go figure)

    Lovely to see you Heather. This is the year that has to count for me.

    talk soon


    • Hey Jayne! 🙂

      Hugs hello! No will power…God knows that’s one of my biggest struggles!

      And of course the world would be so much better if everyone took my advice. LOL I guess that’s why I love building a business as a team, being part of a family, etc. We get called out on our big fat lies and those “do as I say, not as I do” tidbits of advice a lot faster than we would if we were flying solo.

      So lovely to see you, my sweet friend! Thanks for not giving up on me when I was living my lie.

      Hugs goodbye,

  3. You look great, LOL!

    oH YEAH, Everyday is a day of ” I gotta keep moving…” or ELSE, I don’t. I lose ground once I give in to the alternative routine, which for me is, do a little here and there but not really amounting to anything in a proper sense. Daily routine, or workflow, as I learned in animation school, is so key to the success.

    I have a tendency to bite off more than i can chew, so releasing effective bite size chunks really work over the Monday-Friday week. I had to learn this while working full time, going to school full time, and trying to do home business. Boy, I had excuses!

    But, in the end, had to crucify them. Kinda happening now as I am revamping myself in a few different areas.

    Great post, thanks for just puttin your foot down and doing it PJ’s and all!


    • Awww, Joe!

      Thank you so much! Isn’t it a thrilling process to go through these transformations? I think that change is great, but if others are like me, when there’s big change I tend up getting back to the old, “let’s get too comfortable” mindset. And I think that sometimes biting off more than we can chew (again, I can only speak for myself here) is a way to avoid the truth, because we don’t give ourselves time to think about it.

      I’m so glad I woke up before any more time went by…months, years, my lifetime.

      I pray this video helped others wake up too. 🙂


  4. Great attitude and no worries about the PJ’s 🙂

    Making excuses to stop yourself doing certain things is one of the biggest problems a lot of people have.

    Sharing this vid with a few of my friends that I in fact mentioned had this particular problem the other day! You summed it up nicely

    • Wahoo! Thanks for sharing the video! I totally appreciated it and your comment. 🙂

      Can I get really honest with you now? You seem to be excited to share this video with others who you think aren’t being honest which is great and hopefully opens some eyes, but have you opened up your own eyes?

      Where in your life are you a liar? That was the point of the video. To take a look at your life and your business and figure out where you’re lying, cheating, and stealing from the success you deserve.

      Because, you really do deserve it–all of it and more! 🙂


      • I think I’ve stopped lying to myself a hell of a lot 🙂 although there are always a few times when the lies creep back in and I just need to remind myself to stop making excuses i.e. lying! and keep pushing forward

        • I hear you! 🙂 There are parts of my life where I struggle more than others.

          Keep pushing forward…great motto for business & life.

          Have an awesome day!

  5. Nice Info!!!!

    You mentioned very true things in your blog post we should see ourself before say any thing to other. We should see that thing where we are stand right now and what other things we should try to improve in ourself for spend a good relationship life.

  6. Hi Heather,

    I love the topic, the video and your energy!

    Being honest with yourself is the 1st step to improving your life. Lying to yourself creates crippling limiting beliefs, ideas which hold you back.

    The honesty test is uncomfortable. It can hurt your ego. But it is freeing. You lighten up, and get focused on creating your life by design when you remove the inner lies and replace with affirmative beliefs.

    Thanks for sharing your insight Heather!


    • Thanks Ryan,

      It was a fun video to make, totally on impulse, and 100% from the heart.

      I’m just ticked I let myself get away with the big fat lie for as long as I did. Thank goodness for personal development though (about the only thing I didn’t give up these past months) because I think otherwise it would have taken me much longer to realize it (if I ever did.)

      Great to see you again. 🙂

  7. Hi Heather,
    You said that you were unprepared for this post. I say that is wonderful: very original (especially with that tricky song on the background) and totally from the heart. Agree, our mind can be a great liar just to find another door. I must admit that I procrastinate sometimes..

    Your post has a great energy and it motivated me to take more action today (speaking of that blog post, I will write after I hit the submit button) When you take the decision “NO EXCUSES” no matter what, then you become unstoppable. You just proved your instability in a clever way 🙂

    Thanks for sharing your strong message with us.
    All the best,

  8. Hi Heather,

    I love your energy! You are very brave to share your truth about being a liar to your readers! Ha!

    I, too, lie to myself that I will get certain actions done. I don’t feel that it is due to procrastination, but rather – PURE EXHAUSTION!

    It is VERY HARD to have a home business AND be a mother (I have a 7 month old and a 2 year old) and I think sometimes you really just need to let yourself off the hook otherwise you just go insane! (or is that just me?)

    Glad you are getting back to business after your holidays – newbies are relying on you! Thanks,

    • Hi Rachel,

      You’re preaching to the choir with me on being an exhausted mom. I’ve got 3 kids, a 13 year old, 9 year old, and 3 1/2 year old. I’m working a full time job, building a home based business and a blog. Some nights I wonder how I’ll even make it until bedtime.

      For me, when I have a goal that I’m excited about, I have so much more energy. Also when I do unplug on the weekends, I find I have more ideas and motivation during the week.

      I try to pamper myself when I need it and push myself as much as I can the other times. 🙂

      Thanks for the comment. (Sorry for the late reply…such is the life of a busy mom.)

  9. Nevermind pj’s, Heather))
    Thanx for this video. It was real fun to watch it. And I want to add the we ourselves are the first persons we shoulb honest with. Keep posting!

  10. Great way to show up Heather! Perfection is for procrastinators’. There is platinum in a raw, authentic message and your message was loud and clear (lol). Love the video and your message!

    • Thank you so much! I might just have to tattoo “perfection is for procrastinators” on the back of my knuckles so that I see it every day. 🙂 LOL

      Loved your comment…thanks a bunch!

  11. Hi Heather,

    Talk about a catchy title! It is an interesting concept to think of lying to yourself instead of others. I know I don’t lie to others, and I don’t think I’m afraid of myself enough to lie to myself, either. But, I have worked many years on being truthful, since, when I was young, lying was one of my biggest faults (my mother carried a big stick and SHE didn’t speak softly). I’m glad you’re encouraging your readers and yourself to be truthful.


    • Thank you Lou,

      I didn’t know if the title was going to tick people off or not, but I figured I’d go with it and see what happened. 🙂 Seems to be effective so far.

      Truth is always the best way to go. 🙂


  12. Good video. Like the fact that you had the self confidence to do it in PJ.

    Agree with you. We are all good at coming up with excuses why we should do something tomorrow. And convince/lie to ourselves why it can be postponed.

    • Thanks Catrina,

      To be honest, I didn’t have the confidence to do it in my pj’s really, but I did it anyway. I’ve found that fast implementation doesn’t allow for second guessing…or too many excuses either. 🙂

      Appreciate the comment.


  13. Oh yeah! Yes, I am a liar, a big fat liar, so what if I lie my mum that I already had my food and I shared my breakfast with her because I knew that she need more than me that time.

    Anyway the way you are saying is great, you are shooting on right point and we should learn. Good post LIAR 😛

  14. Really good video.I think we can realize know what we are doing.Excuses cannot lessen your burden rather increase. So try to face the reality.Thanks for the nice video.

  15. Hey Heather,

    This is so true. I do it myself everyday, putting off blog posts and graphic jobs to watch tv. Bad Ian 😉

    I am going to try and be more accountable to myself. I have been working on this membership site for a loooooong time now and it is time to finish it, so that’s what I’m gonna do!

    Thanks for sharing Heather and have a great day!

    • Hi Ian,

      So how’s the membership site coming? Have you made progress this past week? I think we might need to create an accountability thread in the CMMC to help us post our goals and hold each other to them! 🙂

      Thanks for the comment and good luck!


      • Hey Heather,

        It is getting very close to being ready. We plan to launch Oct 15th. I did make some progress last week, but I am waiting for my partner to finish a few things before I can finish the site.

        I agree about the accountability thread, we should do it. I could definitely use something like that to hold me accountable. Let me know when you start it.

        Thanks Heather!

  16. Heather..Excellent Video!! its soo true, I kept putting my self to attend a webinar or write a blog post etc..
    I agree with Ian, I too really need to be more accountable.

    Thanks for the reminder 🙂


    • Hi Easther,

      Everyone needs accountability. Have you tried the website stikk where you can set a goal and create an accountability person and a consequence if you don’t reach your goal? It’s pretty darned effective! 🙂

      Good luck,

  17. Hi Heather,

    I like your sexy voice and the way you speak! 🙂 You know what, you are absolutely right. All of us are liars to ourselves. We have so many excuses not to do our tasks and I am sometimes aware of it myself especially when it comes to household

    • Thanks Tiffany,

      I struggle with chores too. My laundry pile is scary! 🙂 lol I guess I’ve got to get honest with myself about that too!


  18. Leila says:

    Watching this video? it’s very well said andd by the way thanks ffor the encouragement. Thanks a lot for sharing this.

  19. Now that’s an inspirational message. Lies and excuses often make us lose the willpower to do things, but you nailed this one and got the message across!

    Easther Sudharta
    Improve Blog Ranking

  20. I was smiling watching your video the entire time because your intro music was really good. It compliments on what you were saying. Anyways, Lying really delays your work. It leads to procrastination and might cause problems in the future. It’s good to be reminded that you need to stop lying to yourself and just get your job done. More power and keep up the good work Heather.

    • Thanks Tim! Glad my video made you smile!

      Perfectionism, lying and procrastination are all problem makers in any business! 🙂 Get er done maybe more than just a cable guy comedy line after all!

      Thanks for the comment!

  21. Hi Heather….this post gave me a good chuckle and some bruised toes, GUILTY as can be!!! Yup been lying to myself obviously entirely too long, think my nose might be twice the size of the pic on your post!!lol
    So lying aside, I am moving forward even faster than I have been since hiring a coach and my launch plans are comiong along very nicely! My wordpress site needs some doctoring and it has been taking way too long to get the diagnosis done, now the results are in and the treatment is well on its way which will equate into a healthy and flourishing online business in the very near future!
    Also I am almost ready to do a video shoot and as you well know, that is far out of my comfort zone so it made me feel much more secure seeing you do a video in pj’s!! Thankyou for your openess and just being you!!:)
    I will be a vital part of the online world again very soon!! Blog posts are ready to roll as soon as the treatment for the site’s ailment is completed!!:)

    Missing you and “see” ya soon!


  22. Most people tend to lie themselves than to face the reality because accepting reality can hurt so much. Some people can’t even bear the pain and the only way is to take their life. But with good advise and constant encouragement from someone, one will learn how to accept the facts and realities of life, make adjustments and live with it.

  23. Great post, Heather! I found this today as I’m working to get back in touch with the blogging world after trying to readjust my balance after my new job. It seems like we both have the same issue of making sure that our balance works. Mine ended in a three-week layoff before I finally said, “It’s been all this time. How much longer do you need to figure it out?” Another thing that helped was reading a workbook based on a Jim Rohn CD, and I was shocked at how much time I was wasting when I looked at my activities. If you need some encouragement, I’m here for you. My new plan is at least three posts every week, with no more than three days between individual posts.

  24. OK, I will confess….every month I tell myself I ‘m starting Yoga and every month it doesn’t happen…My back would really be happy if instead of lying to myself and procrastinating, I would just do it. I’m pretty creative in coming-up with new excuses every time, though, lol

  25. I lie to myself that I will start a diet as of next Monday, that I will have more time to dedicate to myself, that I will sometime learn to play the piano, that I will manage to be tougher with my kids and not give-in when I see their sweet eyes. This is just what’s top of mind 🙂

  26. I find it hard to figure myself on where do I lie part. Kinda tough but I guess we have same routine, days passes by with the article undone. lol! You’re right, this is enough! Enough of nonsense and tardiness!I’m gonna continue learning new things to improve my idea generation on having a good content. Just keep writing,I believe…there’s always room for improvement. I’m not a liar this time =)

  27. Meg says:

    Hi Heather, Like this very much and enjoyed lot…lol…as I am the one when I am kid and use to lie on each and every minutes inorder to do pranks.

    But not now as when I grew up I get to know the DEADLY effects of lying and so now I say with proud that I Don’t LIE.

  28. Clicked on the title cause it was catchy. Didn’t really think it would be about lying – but it was! Awesome. Yes, I too lie (but I lie and call it procrastinate) about getting things done. What I found is the more I lie and do not honor myself, the worse I feel and the worse the lying gets. But if I catch myself and make myself do what I had to do, I feel happy and content – as if I can take on anything! Funny how one action can make you feel like you are on top of the world!

  29. Didn’t know how big a liar I was until now, :). I also borrowed a caption from your blog, dear Mrs. Stephens. Good luck, I’m going to visit this blog now and then 🙂