Do you remember the feeling you had when you brought your baby home for the first day? If you’re not a mommy, this will still bring you value. I promise!
For me bringing home all 3 babies, especially my oldest daughter gave me an almost overwhelming feeling of responsibility. Could have been the hormones, yes, but the realization that I was officially 100% responsibility for the care, feeding, love, and well-being of another human being hit me harder than the contractions I had felt the day she was born.
Do you have that same overwhelming feeling for yourself? You are 100% responsible for the care, feeding, love and well-being of you! As women we all have a tendency to put ourselves on the back burner and cater to the needs of our children, spouses, bosses, parents, churches, etc. Are you putting off your dreams and desires for another day because of the responsibilities that are placed on you right now by others?
There is no better time than right now, to start taking responsibility for yourself and begin designing the life you want. You have to know what your ideal life would look like before you can take aim on a business that is going to be right for you.
Don’t follow in my shoes and waste 5+ years of hard work and heart-ache searching for the right work at home venue. Put the time in now, to figure out exactly what you want in a work at home opportunity, so you will know it when you find it…and you won’t waste time on something that isn’t going to be a fit.
It was when I finally sought out a mentor and actually took her advice to uncover what I really wanted, that things started to click and I began to love what I was doing and the money started to come. I paid thousands of dollars to coaches and 5 years of research and “on the job training” to learn…and I personally feel like I’ve just touched the tip of the iceberg of knowledge on personal success. But, I promise you, if you follow along with me in this process, I will help you get clear on what your ideal life will look like and you won’t have the same challenges I had.
Imagine us sitting together with a cup of coffee or a glass of wine, having a heart to heart conversation about your dreams and deepest desires. As we go through these questions you will get a sneak peek at what your life is going to look like when you are successfully working from home in a way that fulfills you and uses your skills, gifts and interests. But first we need to go through what your life will look like if you continue to walk the path you are on, what you will be sacrificing, what challenges will come up for you, and what that will cost you and your family.
Grab your journal or a pen and paper and let’s get started!
1. Start of by listing the reasons WHY you want to be home with your kids, WHY you want to work for yourself, WHY you want more money, more time, more freedom, more personal fulfillment, and more fun?
I have to laugh because one women I worked with a couple of years ago, during a coaching session we were having, blurted out that she wanted to be able to afford ink cartridges for her printer without having to eat macaroni and cheese for the next week!
Yes, we are all searching for some type of financial and time freedom, but until we paint a very clear picture of what that financial freedom or time freedom looks like, it will be an elusive goal. Don’t be so vague here that you end up with a list of canned responses. Get into this. See if you can’t write out 20, 50, 100 things. When you get to the reason WHY that makes you cry, you’re there!
2. What is uncomfortable about your life right now? If you could wave a magic wand and erase certain challenges from your life what would they be?
List everything you can think of! Many of the women I work with find that it’s easier to discover what they don’t want, or don’t like than it is to figure out what they do want. This is your turn to vent—let it all come out!
3. Look at the list of challenges you have created. How do those challenges make you feel? How long have you had them, what physical, financial, emotional consequences have you faced because of these challenges?
People will do a lot more to avoid pain or to alleviate pain than they will do to achieve pleasure. Wallow in the pain of what it feels like to have these challenges. It can sometimes be the best motivator on the days when you’re not feeling like working on your business.
4. Finally, make a list of what your life will be like if you don’t make a change.
Chances are the problems and challenges you see in your life are things that have been there for a while. Think back 1 year ago…what were the problems you had then? Unless you take focused action on turning these things around you are going to be exactly where you are right now, in one year!
So now that you know what you don’t want…and you are very clear on what you need to change…our next step will be to figure out what you do want!