In the network marketing industry, most consultants are cautioned by their sponsors that a dream stealer can quickly extinguish the spark of belief in new and experienced marketers. Ten positive people can be brought down by one pessimist easier than one negative person can be cheered up by ten positive people. That’s why it’s so important to surround yourself with positive, encouraging people who are on the same journey you are on. It will help you to stay positive and by surrounding yourself with success which will help you reach your goal.
But have you stopped to think about the dream stealer inside of you? Do you frequently talk yourself out of goals you’ve set? Do you talk yourself out of success when things are going well? Do you have thoughts that you don’t have what it takes to reach your goal, or that you’ll never make it?
We’ve all experienced these thoughts at some point in our lives, but in order to achieve success, we need quiet that “Negative Nellie” and shift our thoughts to positive self talk.
What is self talk? I like to think of it as that little voice inside your head, talking to you all the time. It can tell you good things, or bad things. It can keep you where you are or help you achieve your dreams.
I became aware of self talk about 4 years ago when I read a book by Dr. Shad Helmstetter called “The Gift.” (It’s a powerful book if you have not read it, I suggest you do.) In the book. Dr. Helmstetter talks about the gift of changing your self talk. He says that we can reprogram our minds through self talk, and by changing our programs, we can change our lives.
It’s hard to reach any goal if we’re talking ourselves out of success…and most of the time we don’t even realize or notice the negative self talk when we’re doing it! We end up feeling like there is something wrong with us because we see others in our network marketing companies reaching their goals, while we are left frustrated and feeling stuck.
There have been times in my business where I refused to set goals. I was so discouraged by month after month of not reaching them, that I decided I wouldn’t even set them. I just kept plugging along doing the business, but the passion and excitement was not there for me because my negative self talk had taken up residence in my mind.
Have you ever felt this way?
If you’re at this point in your business, or cruising dangerously close to it, positive self talk can absolutely help you reprogram your mind and get you back on track with your goals.
There is a distinct difference in how much better I feel when I’m, meditating, and listening to positive affirmations, and there is an absolute difference in how much I’m achieving in my business; concrete, measurable results.
Changing your self talk can help you achieve the goals you set. It’s easy to do and takes minutes a day.
You may not be aware of the severity of the negative dialogue currently within your mind. However, once you begin with positive self-talk, you will suddenly realize that you are self-sabotaging the goals you set for yourself from the minute that you make them. This process can open your eyes to exactly how much this inner conversation has been interfering with your life. You’ll feel hopeful that you can now set goals and surpass them.
Using Self Talk to Re-Program Your Mind
1. Write down some positive affirmations (or positive statements) that are related to your goal.
2. Read them frequently throughout your day, especially when you notice negative thoughts coming in as you work toward your goals. What this does is replaces the negative self limiting thoughts with positive thoughts that will help you reach your goal. It also helps you to become aware of how frequently you sabotage your efforts,
3. Increase the efficacy by entering a relaxed state as you read your affirmations
Tips to fit Positive Self Talk into your busy schedule:
– Listen to positive self talk affirmations on a mp3 player at night as you drift to sleep or as you’re going about your day
– Program positive affirmations into the screen saver on your computer
– Create a video with positive affirmations and photos of your goals/dreams and watch it a couple of times a day
Through positive self-talk you will be able easily set long and short-term goals for yourself. And when you use affirmations, you’ll have accessible tools to help you push yourself further than ever before. Learning to quiet negativity with positive thoughts is a great move toward setting and attaining future goals with ease.