“Personal growth: seeing progress every time you change your underpants”–Did your mind go “there?” He! He! He!
I do want you to click through and read my post; so don’t blame me for getting creative with my headlines–it’s for your own good, I totally promise!
Today’s post is good clean fun with a great lesson on personal growth and making progress. I know you can’t wait to see how I tie changing your underpants into a post on personal development. So, I won’t keep you waiting.
We’re in potty training boot camp in our house! My son is 3 1/2 and as a mom who has done this twice before (with girls who were both potty trained by now) I’m struggling with frustration and feelings of failure because he is not in the slightest bit interested!
We’ve purchased every type of pull-up’s out there, including the ones that turn cold when he pees. We’ve tried the cheerios in the potty to aim at. We’ve rewarded him with M&M’s, and even toys, trying to get him excited about wanting to go on the potty.
We’re making progress, little by little…I’m SO proud of him because he’s actually going poop on the potty now! (Did I just really talk about poop on my blog?)
There are four main stages of personal growth that we all progress through.
1. The first stage of personal development is unconscious and incompetent.
- To put in in perspective of potty training, this is when a child doesn’t know that they’re supposed to be going on the potty and they don’t understand the feeling of having to go. (Diaper Stage)
- For the marketer it may be that you don’t know you should be building a list online and you wouldn’t have a clue how to do that.
- Personal Growth Phase: You don’t know what you don’t know.
2. The second stage of personal development progress is conscious and incompetent.
- That’s when a kid becomes aware that mommy, daddy, and older siblings are using the potty but they are trying themselves and having frequent accidents. (Pull-Up Stage)
- For the marketer, it may be that they become clued into the world of internet marketing for lead generation or funded proposals, but they don’t know where to begin.
- This is the stage where a lot of people give up because it feels difficult and overwhelming.
- Personal Growth Phase: You know what you don’t know.
3. The third stage of personal development progress is conscious and competent.
- This is when the kid knows to go on the potty but has to work hard to remember it. (Training Pants Stage)
- For the marketer it may be when you’ve got your blog set up and you’re starting to build an audience but you’re working hard to get traffic, generate leads, create content, and you’ve got to have your head in the game at all times. You’re learning the skills you need to be successful online.
- This the stage where people may fall victim to the comparison trap, comparing themselves to other marketers who may or may not be better than they are. As a leader it’s important to keep your humility and not forget what it was like to be in the previous stage, and also not to let yourself get discouraged if others are moving forward faster than you are.
- Personal Growth Phase: You know what you know.
4. The fourth stage of personal development progress is unconscious and competent.
- This is when the kid goes on the potty without being reminded, and no longer has accidents. (Big Boy or Big Girl Undies!)
- This is when the marketer feels like their business is running on autopilot. They’ve got the skills they needed, they’ve experienced success, and they don’t have to think about every little thing they’re doing because it comes naturally to them.
- They are confident in themselves but not arrogant. The better leaders at this stage are humble and want to give back to help others.
- Personal Growth Phase: You don’t think about what you know.
So that’s all fine and dandy, but what is really important is how to achieve the personal growth, right?
Actions done daily, become habits, which create change.
My mission has been to weave my personal development into my daily activities so that it’s as habitual and natural as changing my underpants. I’d feel weird and it would bother me if I didn’t do it.
Plus when you’re taking daily actions toward your personal development and goals the slight edge works in your favor and the activities compound! You will start to see progress every day. For me that looks like more traffic and leads and sales that increase pretty steadily every day.
Because I’m the queen of procrastination and distraction, I’ve learned there are several secrets to really helping me push myself and my personal growth forward.
- Make it easy for me to do.
- Surround myself with the right friends who make me want to do it.
- Put myself in the right environment.
Finding the right style of learning that fits your life:
I’m actually a book learner and visual learner combined, but that wasn’t working for me because I’m a mom of 3 and finding time to sit and read a book or attend seminars and events is difficult. So, I’ve adapted and chosen audio as my preferred way of learning.
Finding the right environment for learning & personal development:
The coolest thing about working for ourselves is that we can design our own work environments. If you like to work at the coffee shop, do it! If you like to blast 80’s rock ballads while you’re working, go for it! I frequently work in the family room or at the kitchen table when I want to keep an eye on my son and I move to my office when I’m needing extra focus.
Get leverage on yourself:
Find the best way to motivate yourself get leverage on yourself. Does writing down your goals and having your vision board displayed while you work, motivate you to take action? Do you need a coach to help hold you accountable to reaching your goals? Do you work great in a group, or do you need solitude to stay focused?
I work with a coach, but that’s not always enough for me, so I like to put my goals out there to others so that I am publicly held accountable. I’m slippery with myself when it comes to my personal goals, which is why I’ve created teams like the prove it blog challenge and my blog commenting tribe that help me to stay focused with a group of others. (I’ll always work harder for others than I will myself.)
I also will find a few strategic friends who are willing to roll up their sleeves and help me stay accountable to my goals. They’re my go-t0 people when I’m stuck or I need some extra encouragement.
I also find that it’s important for me to avoid certain people who hold me back from my goals. The friends who encourage me to blow off my work and go do something unproductive instead.
I hope these suggestions help you to focus on your personal development goals. Taking daily personal growth actions will compound and before you know it you’ll be at the unconscious competent stage where you don’t think about what you know and success comes easily!
If you’re needing some accountability and coaching to help you build your business, please let me know. I’ve got a couple of openings for coaching students this month. Please share this post in social media and let me know your secrets to personal growth in the comments below!