3 Secrets to Overcoming Obstacles and Turning Teams into Fulfilled Dreams

Leadership Secrets to Overcoming Obstacles Like Ty Tribble and EIROThere isn’t a successful home based business team leader who hasn’t gained experience in overcoming obstacles. Challenges and obstacles in our businesses are just part of the territory. Teammates quit, product lines are discontinued, companies end up in bankruptcy, and companies close, but the leaders keep leading.

I’m sure you’re aware of the buzz in the industry about EIRO Research shutting down leaving their distributors to face the obstacles of starting over.

My blogging mentor and clever marketer, Ty Tribble, is a great example of using  team leadership skills to overcome obstacles so elegantly this past week. I see him on facebook, supporting his team. Posting updates on his blog, and hosting calls to answer questions and help the people he’s leading.

I am not on Ty’s team or in his company. But I know many of my readers are because of my guest blogging appearances on Ty’s blog and my blog’s critique in Ty’s MLM Blog Code bonus webinar.   I’m writing this for you…

[box]”In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity.”  ~Albert Einstein[/box]

Leaders use the energy of fear and anger to create momentum to overcome obstacles:

When you are facing a huge obstacle of knowing everything you’ve worked for is instantly at risk, and you are hit with that uneasy feeling of foreboding your belief gets tested in ways you cannot even imagine.

There is a moment of thought, “How can this be happening?” “What does this mean for me?” For most people this moment becomes paralyzing.

There is fear, disbelief, and anger.

But for leaders, in spite of the fear, this moment becomes a catalyst for massive movement, leading to massive momentum.  Their success mindset helps them find the strength to overcome obstacles.

My husband and I were comforting our oldest daughter this past weekend, after she was deeply disappointed about something she was hoping for. She had a feeling of entitlement, that because she’d worked for it, hoped for it, and done what was required, she should have it. But circumstances beyond her control “changed the rules.” She was angry.

We were trying to comfort her, yet help her handle the situation more maturely, and my husband and I started to tell her a story…

It was a humid hot and sticky Wednesday, in August of 1996, when we received our first major test of faith and leadership in our marriage. I was 22, he was 25 and we had only been married for a year. I was still in school and he was working as a funeral director in a very small town near by. We were living completely paycheck to paycheck, riddled with school loans and two car payments.

We dreamed of a bigger life, a home, a family, and it didn’t seem possible on the income he was earning so he decided to switch professions. We worked hard, typing resumes on a word processor I used in school, lining up interviews, and after several months, he got a job.

Knowing he wouldn’t get vacation time for a year, he took two weeks off between jobs and we spent the time traveling and entertaining his grandparents (burning through any extra income we had because we knew the “big bucks” were coming two weeks later.)

He was to start his new job on a Monday, and the Wednesday before, he received a phone call from his new employer telling him that the job had been eliminated and they would not be needing him. Our bridges were burned, his previous employer had already replaced his position, and we had that feeling of foreboding I mentioned a few paragraphs above.

I cried, wanted to throw up, couldn’t believe what was happening to us. I sat at our hand-me-down kitchen table, wishing our apartment was in the cool basement instead of the third floor because my husband had turned off our window air conditioner to save money.

I was tired from crying and trying to get up the nerve to call my dad to tell him I was going to quit school so I could go get a job, when something clicked inside of me. An intense feeling of empowerment. “Who are we to let them run our lives this way? We don’t need that job…there are other jobs.”

We went to the library (before the Internet was in the picture for me) and we copied page after page of phone numbers of companies in the field he was getting into. We started calling them one by one, asking if they had any openings. I was feeding him numbers and quarters, as he dialed the pay phone in the lobby of he library.

He got a job that day. One that paid more than he was going to make, had better benefits, and gave him more opportunities for growth than the company he was going to go to.   He still started on Monday.

There are three secrets to overcoming obstacles and turning your teams into fulfilled dreams:

  1. Turn your fear and/or anger, about the obstacles in your way, into energy and determination.
  2. Stick together and know you’re going to get through these obstacles and end up better on the other side.
  3. Work your butt off when the right opportunity presents itself.

Stay focused on your goals and get determined about successfully handling obstacles in your path!

[box]”Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off your goal.” ~ Henry Ford[/box]

You may have “business venture vultures” circling around you right now, trying to get you to join their companies by dissolving your belief. Don’t listen to them!  Huddle together, hold each others hands, and know that together you are stronger and that together you are better at successfully handling obstacles that come your way.  Keep your focus on your dreams, not the problems that surround you in the moment.  If you focus on the problems you might miss the possibilities!

Trust your leader and lead your teams.

Leaders like Ty Tribble, know that success is not about a company, their products, or the compensation plan. It’s about people, teamwork, and belief.  Overcoming obstacles like this will make any team stronger, if you stick together!

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  1. Hey Heather another awesome post you have done. finally someone making a positive post on The Eiro Research situation. You are so right about the vultures out there and those are definitely not the kind of people I want to be in business with. I choose to stick with the leaders that stand by their team.

    • Heather Stephens says:

      Hi Kelly,

      Hang in there. The vultures will be moving onto someone else soon. Sounds like you all have a great new company! Congratulations!


  2. Very good point heather,
    and very timely in light of watching
    yet another MLM company bite the dust…
    …even right out from under Ty Tribble!

    Just goes to show that it can happen to
    even the best of us!

    I am not on Ty’s team or in his company either,
    but his display of support to his team is
    nothing short of gallant in the dire straits
    they have just fallen into…

    Yes, I agree: people join people.
    not companies.

    Therein lies the secret to success!

    As the old saying goes:
    “United we stand, Divided we fall”

    These are the moments where true leaders
    shine at their best.

    (However, I would’t wish such a peril
    as Ty and his team are experiencing
    right now on anyone!)


    • Heather Stephens says:

      Hi Robert,

      No one would ever wish something like this, but I think that when the unimaginable happens, the key is to stay grounded and get into action, as ty has, to create a solution!

      Thank you for your great comment!

  3. Hi Heather,

    thanks for sharing your personal story. Very powerful. Companies come and go, but leaders remain. Very true.

    I dare to say that many companies in our industry fail by design.

    In most cases, they’re telling people right away in their policies and procedures and compensation plan what they intend to do, for example terminate all marketers, switch into a direct sales model, do retailing on their own once they have a sufficient customer base.

    It would be a good idea if leaders taught their people how to detect companies with evil intentions. These companies smell five kilometers (or miles) against the wind, as we say in Germany.

    You don’t have to be an attorney to do that.

    Vulture culture – it’s all written and available to anybody being able to read.

    But every adversity can be a blessing a disguise, as you and your husband proved – because you took massive action.

    Thanks again for sharing your insights.

    Take care


    • Heather Stephens says:

      Hi Oliver,

      You bring up some very important points that we should all read our company policies carefully before signing.

      I believe though, that the situation many marketers face is not always the company yanking their businesses out from under them (although that does happen and we should be aware of what we’re signing up for!) but so many network marketing companies fail because they can’t keep up with the fast growth or the growth isn’t consistently there.

      I see that Ty has taken his team to an established company with many decades of experience and success under their belts. No guarantees, but obviously a calculated risk that they’ll be in business for decades to come.

      Either way, it’s our responsibility to know what we’re getting into, to understand that the company rules are to protect the company, and there is a risk to weigh out against the benefits, that the company may or may not be able to sustain business practices.

      Thanks for your valuable input!


  4. Hi Kim,

    I appreciate the inspiration here.

    Knowing what you went through demonstrates yet again we all come up against crazy stuff from time to time.

    Don’t be handcuffed by your fears. Learn to transmute this energy into something productive.

    Keep your vision in mind all day long. You won’t have any difficulties being doggedly persistent in crushing obstacles placed before you.

    Thanks for sharing with us.


    • Heather Stephens says:

      Hi Ryan,

      I totally agree that we all have our challenges. I love your phrase to not be handcuffed by your fears!

      Thanks for your comment!

  5. Sorry Heather (not Kim) shoveling too much snow today lol….

    • Heather Stephens says:

      🙂 Ryan,

      LOL! No worries, I actually didn’t even notice until I read this comment! We’re getting snow today. Not looking forward to shoveling. Where are you again? I’m in Roscoe, IL about 1/2 way across the IL/WI border.

      Stay toasty!

  6. Hi Heather,

    What an inspiring post! Thanks for sharing your personal story as well – very moving and encouraging…

    Your post and the comments here highlight one and the same thing – the power of Attraction Marketing: people join people and not companies. Companies come and go. True leaders will always be there!

    It’s great to see what Ty is doing to support his team so they can stick together.

    Thank you so much for this powerful and inspiring post. Ty and his team would be very appreciative of your thoughts, support and encouragement during this challenging time.

    All the best,

  7. I agree Heather, obstacles are just part of our business but it requires some leadership skills to overcome these obstacles. I agree with all your points, especially knowing you’re going to get through these obstacles and end up in a better place.

    In this business you have to be patient and as long as you know you’re doing the right things you’re heading in the right direction. You just have to stay persistent and keep pushing until you reach where you want to be. Thanks for the detailed post, I enjoyed reading.

  8. Heather, fantastic post! So True. Obstacles are what you make of them. If they can’t kill you they can only make you stronger. don’t get me wrong, I could keep you for a few hours playing violin, but you have to make a decision to get around them and if we can stay positive, or “try” to look at the situation as an adventure or opportunity for improvement..the chips fall into place. WOW… great personal examples. Thanks Heather.

  9. Hey Heather,

    I love your story and you tell it so well.

    We’ve all had those moments but there comes a time when we just have to grab the bull by the horns and take control, just like when you said, “who are they to take control of our lives?”

    It is really about turning our fears and anger into energy. Feeling sad and depressed is wasted energy, just like I think anger and hatred is wasted energy, after all what good things can come from those emotions?

    And sticking together is so important. Things are a lot easier when you know you’re not going it alone 😉

  10. Hi Heather,

    Thanks a lot for sharing your story. It’s worth the read.

  11. I was completely caught up in your story Heather.

    Thank you for sharing that. Although not about work, I’ve experienced that same feeling. The chips are down, all seems hopeless, and then something sparks inside and there is no stopping you.

    As much as it sucks, sometimes we have to get to that point to make things better than ever.

    Wonderful post, as usual. 😉 ((hug))


  12. Very Inspiring post and awesome story heather.

    You’ve made some great points.

    “It’s about people, teamwork, and belief. Overcoming obstacles like this will make any team stronger, if you stick together!”
    Great Point.

    Thanks for sharing this great post :). Keep up the good work.

  13. Heather,

    A powerful story that you share with us about your own personal life experience.

    It seems like yesterday I was reading about the same situation. Just like Ty, David Wood had the same experience and I remember reading how he fought back and built a bigger & better team.
    I personally had those same thoughts after joining my MLM. After reading the negative press about my MLM, I almost decided not to go through with it.

    I said to my wife, there a negatives to this business but look at all the positives. There are so many success stories. People sell these products.

    I told her, “Let’s make our own success story”.

    Have a great weekend,
    Tommy D.

  14. Powerful stuff Heather!

    These challenges are where the leaders are truly made. Ty’s leadership is obviously not in question at this point but the way teat he’s handled the news of EIRO’s closure clearly shows why he’s so highly regarded as a leader in the industry.

    I love that you shared such a significant step in your own story too. Turning the emotions and thoughts which can conquer us into the fuel for us to reach for new heights is hard, but I believe we always have the choice. I’m glad to hear that your belief and determination won through!

    Existence has a habit of rewarding us for acceptance and faith… Becoming stuck on a part of our plan that hasn’t come together is a sure-fire way to miss the opportunities appearing in front of us right now – and there are always opportunities!

    Thanks for sharing these inspiring stories Heather!

    All the best,


  15. Heather, it was a touching story and at the same time, and inspirational one.
    What you did in those circumstances is something that most people would not have done. They would have scolded others for this condition. But you went ahead, took action and changed your life.


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