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You know who you want to be. We all have moments of wishing we were better at certain things, and as WAHM’s and home based business entrepreneurs, we’re naturally on a mission to become the best versions of ourselves as possible, so that we can grow bigger businesses that help more people, and that provide the lifestyle we desire for our families.
The Me I Want to Be by John Ortberg
I’ve been reading a fantastic book called, The Me I Want to Be, by John Ortberg with my growth group which is really creating significant change in the way I view my work, motherhood, and my personal growth.
It seems like when I’m setting goals, balancing my life as a WAHM and working on growing my business, if feels like I’m frequently focused on the gap between where I am and where I want to be. How many books have been written on the subject of bridging this gap? Countless for sure.
But yet, I am drawn to this type of material over and over again, probably because every time I reach a goal, there is something else on my horizon, a desire within me, that draws me farther ahead once again.
The Challenge of Becoming The Me I Want to Be
It is human nature to grow, create, want to achieve more, and be better overall. But there are some areas in my life where professional and personal growth are harder than others. It feels like there is something always standing in the way, blocking the bridge to success.
“The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.” Ralph Waldo Emerson (Personally I don’t think that’s the whole story.)
I’ve read the books and quotes, listened to the audios, and attended the seminars–I brought home the t-shirts too–but it doesn’t matter what kind of a high I’m on when I get home, eventually that external motivation wears off. Trying harder, as John Ortberg says, is not the answer. We need to try softer. We can only white knuckle our success for so long before we begin to lose our grip.
I don’t believe secret to success is becoming better or smarter, or more clever than the next guy/gal you’re about to meet. It’s about being more you; “youier” as John Ortberg says. Turning up the volume on the things that make you, you. (We’ve talked about this on the subject of personal branding before!)
The Me I Want to Be has given me a clue, just a glimpse into the things (the me’s) standing in my way. Let me explain…
So if you’ve played wii you surely have had some fun creating different mii’s. My kids think this is more fun than many of the games, making different characters with many different features. Oh, how I wish sometimes that I could just slide the bar and make myself thinner, taller, give myself a new hair-do, or sexier lips. 🙂 If only success was that easy too!
Can you imagine, sliding the bar to find your sweet spot? A little farther to the right to be a better mom and wife, more creative, a better leader, or a braver and bigger risk taker! Woo hoo, I’m getting excited already. Doin’ a Happy Dance!
The Me’s Stainding in the Way of the Me I Want to Be
But it’s not that easy. There are Me’s that get in the way of the me I want to be! (Isn’t that the way it always is? We’ve got such a knack for getting in our own way, don’t we?)
But we’ve each got several mii’s that play tug-of-war with each other. There’s the me that is working toward losing weight, and the me that wants to dig into the kid’s Easter candy. There is the me that wants stretch my comfort zone to grow my business, and the me that fights to remain within my self limiting boundaries.
John Ortberg describes it as, “Inside your soul there is a battle between a flourishing self –the person you were created to be–and a languishing self.” The book, The Me I Want to Be, takes you on a journey through your spirit, mind, time, experiences, and relationships in order to help you discover the me you are meant to be.
But like any great adventure of life, there are challenges and obstacles to overcome: The Me I Don’t Want to Be.
John Ortberg talks about several Me’s that get in the way of the me we want to be. I’m going to run through them here for you and share a little about the me that gets in my own way in my follow up with tomorrow’s post. I’d love to know in the comments the Me’s that get in your way too 🙂
- The me I pretend to be.
- The me I think I should be.
- The me others want me to be.
- The me I am afraid God wants me to be.
- The me that fails to be.
I know you don’t know how John Ortberg describes each of these Me’s yet, but I’d love to hear what you think might be the Me that gets in the way of you being the me you are meant to be. Here’s the link to The Me You Want to Be, Becoming God’s Best Version of You on amazon if you’re interested in reading it!