Do you come from the perspective of feeling like you want to do it, or like you have to do it? I know for myself that I can feel both at times, depending on the state I’m in when I’m working.
Anthony Robbins frequently talks about how to change our state in order to get ourselves to do the things we know we need to do. And there is a lot of power in learning how to get leverage on ourselves so we can change how we look at something we know we need to do so that we are coming from a place of commitment instead of compliance when it comes to our goals, whether they are part of our network marketing home based business, or another part of our life.
The two forces driving you in your network marketing home based business:
I think for a lot of us, our businesses are something where we know what we need to do. Similar to losing weight, exercising, or getting out of debt, the process itself is not difficult; eat less than you burn; burn more than you eat; earn more than you spend; spend less than you earn. But each moment we are faced with the choice to take action toward our goals, or take the easy route to not take action, a battle begins between the two forces in our mind. The one force that wants to break through our limiting beliefs and boundaries to reach our goals, and the other force that wants to keep us safe and comfortable with the status quo.
If we can change our state from compliant (doing it because we should) to commited (doing it because we want to), we can have the power to achieve anything we want in our network marketing home business or any other area of our lives.
I’ve found that, even when I’m facing the exact same tasks, my attitudes will often be very different in how I approach them. I experienced a great example of this the other night. My son wanted me to read his favorite story and I have to say that I am so sick and tired of it. We’ve read it every nap time, and bedtime for about 2 months straight. I couldn’t talk him into something else, not matter how I tried.
When I read the book at nap time that day, I approached it a compliance frame of mind. I was thinking something like: “Okay, I’ll read it because I have to read it, and he’s not going to go to bed until I read it, and even though I totally don’t want to, I’ll just get it over with.” I had lots of things to do, and I just wanted him to get to sleep so I could get them done.
But later that night, I still had a long to-do list that wasn’t finished. The dinner dishes were not done, the laundry still needed to go into the dryer, my girls were still working on homework, and I needed to get my son into bed.
Again, he asked for the same book. Ahhhhhh!
I initially tried to get him to pick a different one, but something from within me helped me to realize that I needed to change how I looked at the situation. I was feeling some sadness about my daughter turning 9 in a few days and I remembered how it felt like only 6 months ago, she was almost 3. Looking into his big blue eyes, and seeing him at 9, busy with homework, friends, and days at school apart from me, I shifted my state instantly from compliance to commitment.
I read that story with all the voices. With pauses and emphasis on different parts. I pointed out pictures, talked about what was on each page, and asked him what he thought several times throughout the story. He loved it, as you can imagine, but you know what? I loved it too. I had a wonderful time and really enjoyed the story myself!
Your attitude toward your network marketing home based business:
I’ve been thinking about this regarding my network marketing home based business and there are certainly areas where I’m not feeling very committed to the things I need to do in order to reach my goals. But when I think about commitment vs compliance I believe it boils down to one thing. Having a strong and powerful why.
Spending some time, just a few minutes is all it takes, to really connect with my why and feel the importance of what I’m creating for my husband, family, self, and everyone else I can help with my business makes me look at the same dreary tasks in a whole new light.
I encourage you to think about commitment vs compliance in your network marketing home based business activities and how you can change your state to shift toward more commitment on the things you don’t enjoy doing.
Make a list of all the things you do for your business. What things do you enjoy? What things do you procrastinate or put off. An example would be if you really enjoy the prospecting part of your network marketing home based business, but procrastinate following up with your preferred clients. How could you change your state toward the things you avoid or put off doing?
I would love to know how you approach changing your state and how you override the stubborn person inside of you that wants to keep you from moving forward. What have you learned about commitment and compliance in your life? Do yo have examples that would explain it well to others?
Please share your thoughts in the comments below and share this on twitter, facebook! And more than anything, please treat your business with commitment. You deserve it, your family deserves it, and the people you can help deserve you being committed to your network marketing home based business!